I read that question a few months ago while reading the book Lean In. At the time my response was I would ride roller coasters, go zip lining or try para-sailing. You see I have a fear of heights or what I refer to as a vertical challenge.
My life has been CRAZY BUSY lately…all in good ways (no complaints here). In the midst of working on a project in Chicago I got a call that one of my clients wanted me to manage/produce a screening for the movie 12 Years A Slave (A MUST SEE FILM) in Los Angeles. As I listened to the client explain the expectations and deliverables I thought, “WHAT, you want me to do what…..in LA? Are you sure about that?”
For the record I’ve never managed, produced, led or even worked on a moving screening, but looking back I realize I have the transferable skills necessary to manage/produce a screening. On top of managing/producing a screening they wanted me to do it in Los Angeles the HOME of movie stars (which I know none) and movie making. I wanted to say NO. Then I thought perhaps I could take on the project in a city where I had “connections” but after my mini anxiety attack and self-doubt conversation I was reminded that I’m on Faith Walk and that this Faith Walk that I’ve been on has not led me astray yet. So I put on my big girl panties and if I do say so myself I did the DAMN THING with the help of a great team!
I doubted myself and that doubt led to fear. I’m so proud of myself for not caving into the fear. I stepped up to the challenge and I was blessed with the resources and people to make the screening “FANTASTIC,” according to one of the executives at Fox Searchlight.
Reflecting on last night’s success I thought about how many times I’ve said no to things or didn’t do something because I was afraid. For all I know I’ve allowed fear to prevent me from SEIZING THE DAY.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
You just might CARPE DIEM!
Make new friends but keep the old….
One of my dear friends, Daarel is starting a new chapter and moving from Atlanta to Memphis to work at this really cool education “hub.” In the spirit of celebrating his NEW job and NEW chapter my friend Natasha and I invited Daarel out for a “last hooray in A.”
We had a great time laughing, reminiscing and simply being ourselves. Our time together really helped my seize the day because the “summer cold” had me out for the count the majority of the day. It’s great to have friends that know your past, present and are EXCITED about your future.
Make new friends but keep the old and don’t forget to seize the day!
I knew she had a series of work out videos
I knew she was married to Ted Turner
That sums up what I new about Jane Fonda until I watched her Master Class last year. After listening to her life experiences and pearls of wisdom I learned about her as an individual; as a person that has made mistakes and has regrets and as a person striving to live her life authentically and peacefully. I learned that she is a woman of conviction, wisdom, passion and pure kindness.
Fast forward a year and a half later and who do I run into at the Loews Hotel in Atlanta….Jane Fonda!
She was sipping a Tito Martini while she waited for her escort to a fundraiser she was attending to arrive. <Side Note: I wasn’t familiar with Tito Vodka so I looked it up. It’s a handmade and distilled in Austin, TX>
Anyway, my friend Jaems and I had a brief conversation with her than we asked if we could take pictures with her and she obliged. After we took the picture she said “let me see.” A very REAL response.
So my Carpe Diem moment for Thursday, September 12, 2013 was a chance conversation with Living Legend Jane Fonda.
Last week I announced that I’m competing in Vacation Express’ Social Savvy Rockstar Contest. Basically, I have to develop a social media campaign that features me as a Social Savvy Social Media Correspondent for Vacation Express. Additionally, I NEED you, your partner/spouse, your friends, your family…basically “everybody and ‘dem” to VOTE for me at http://www.vacationexpress.com/rockstartour/.
I don’t know how she does but my mother finds a way to mention that I’m not married and childless EVERY SINGLE DAY! I don’t think she realizes how annoying it is despite the numerous times I have told her to stop.
Yesterday I drove myself into a state of fear that I would become an “old single cat lady.” I’m not sure what triggered it.
It may have been this article from the Huffington Post, ” 7 Things to Never Say to Single Woman,” one of my friends shared on Facebook yesterday. Whatever the stimuli I sunk into a bad case of woe is me… I’m not married and I don’t have any kids yet. I hope I don’t turn into an “old single cat lady.” Mind you that’s NOT my normally MO. I know lots of people that are unhappily married (I pray I’m never a part of that group), I know married couples that don’t have sex (why get married) and I have friends that have children that drive them stir crazy. On top of that despite the annoying daily comments/nags or “friendly reminders” from my mom and subtle comments from other family members I LOVE MY LIFE 97% of the time.
Nonetheless, I was in a funk yesterday afternoon.
Despite the fact that I know the story she shared and even though I’ve heard her tell the story on the Oprah Winfrey Show and at O You, listening to it yesterday gave me goosebumps. I’ve talked about the FAITH WALK that has been a part of my journey but I realized my faith varies in strength in different aspects of my life. I think I got the goosebumps because I haven’t been completely faithful about marriage and having children. I’ve allowed other people’s comments to sway me and cause me to loose a little faith.
Listening to Oprah’s story reminded me of the importance of truly surrendering. I can’t be on a FAITH WALK if I’m busy plotting and scheming. So my CARPE DIEM moment for September 10th was a friendly reminder to SURRENDER!
My life has been really really busy lately (I’m not complaining). The last time I was in Atlanta I tried to connect with my friend Malika, however due to my schedule I only got to see her in two very brief “pass-off” meetings. Although I wasn’t feeling 100% yesterday I was able to connect with Malika for dinner. We live in society where everyone is dealing with a filled calendar and we are often running from one thing to another. Whenever I can connect in person with my friends it makes my day extra special.
Due to not feeling well yesterday I came home and got immediately in the bed. I ended up sleeping over 8 hours. I can’t remember the last time I slept 8 hours. I woke up refresh and vibrant this morning. I’ve decided that I’m going to try to get 8 hours a sleep at least 1 night a week. Sleep does the body good!
People often ask me what I mean when I say Carpe Diem. I contend that seizing the day is not always about being an adventurist, having some exuberant experience or receiving good news. I believe that seizing the day is mindset. It’s the conscious decision to live a life that is filled with making the most with what we’ve been blessed with. It’s the conscious decision to live in the present instead of “when I.” It’s a conscious decision to have meaningful relationships and it’s conscious decision to authentically live your life.
I’ve decided to start a Carpe Diem Challenge. During the Carpe Diem Challenge I will share what my Carpe Diem moment or moments were for the day. I hope the Carpe Diem Challenge will encourage you to think about how you Carpe Diem. I want to encourage you to share your Carpe Diem moment or moments here or on my newly launched Carpe Diem with Jasmine Facebook page.
Are you ready to start seizing the day?
Two weeks ago I had dinner with my friend Dana Marie and she said “you should be the social media correspondent for…” I replied that I would LOVE to be a social media correspondent.
Fast forward two weeks and I’ve been given the opportunity to be a social media correspondent for Vacation Express! Me and another Social Savvy Star will engage in a little healthy competition as spokespersons for Vacation Express. The first round of the competition culminates with us “doing our thing” in Las Vegas at the iHeartRadio Music Festival September 20 and 21st.
I’m looking forward to attending the iHeartRadio Music Festival, hearing some GREAT music from all the artists and bands that will be performing at the festival but more importantly I’m looking forward to sharing the journey with you via social media and on the Vacation Express Rockstar Tour website, hhttp://www.vacationexpress.com/rockstartour/.
Be on the look out for special posts and updates in the coming weeks as I serve as social media correspondent and spokesperson for Vacation Express.
~ Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
I can count the number of movies I see in the movie theater a year on one hand however, I’ve anxiously awaited seeing Lee Daniels’ The Butler since I heard about the movie last fall. I’m so happy the studio decided to move the release day up to August from it’s original October 2013 release date.
My OWN Ambassadors/OWNers sister friend, Phoebe Moncrief and I made plans to see Lee Daniels’ The Butler at midnight on August 16th in attempt to be early box office supporters. To my surprise we were able to attend a 9 PM showing at the AMC theater at Phipps Plaza.
Lee Daniels’ The Butler is loosely based on the life of Eugene Allen. He served 8 presidential administrators as a butler in the White House and was married to the lovely Helene Allen. You can read more about Eugene Allen in this Washington Post article, entitled “A Butler Served by this Election.”
Lee Daniels’ The Butler stars Forrest Whitaker as the main character, Cecil Gaines, a butler at the White House that migrated to Washington, DC from the cotton fields of Macon, GA. The movie also start Oprah Winfrey, Cuba Gooding Jr., Lenny Kravits, Mariah Carey and David Oyelowo.
I LOVED the movie! I think the writer, director and cast did an excellent job of covering black history in the United States of America post the Emancipation Proclamation. The movie also does a wonderful job of showing what life is like for a black family in America during the 20′s, 50′s, 60′s, 70′s and why President Obama’s election was so profound for so many members of the black community in America.
I adored the “village” references e.g., Uncle Carter, the dialogue exchange about recipes and the leave for college scene (it reminded me of the days leading up to me attending American University). More importantly, I had an epiphany or what some may call an AHA Moment at the end of the movie. There’s a song that Helen Baylor sings called “Praying Grandmother,” in which she explains how her “praying grandmother” was able to help deliver her form drug addiction via her prayers.
Lee Daniels’ The Butler reminded me that I stand, walk and live the DREAMS that my ancestors dreamed. Albeit a little different than what they probably dreamed and imagined I AM HERE because they dared to DREAM. One of my modern day role models, Oprah Winfrey, says “dream your biggest dream and watch God make it bigger.” Lee Daniels’ The Butler reminded me that I am a the bigger version of the dreams my forefathers and fore-mothers dreamed and to them for having the courage and gumption to dream I say THANK YOU!
I want to encourage you to check out Lee Daniels’ The Butler this weekend or in the coming weeks, it won’t disappoint! Additionally, my OWN Ambassadors and OWNers friends are hosting a tweet chat on the movie Monday, August 19th at 8 PM EST, #LeeDanielsTheButler. Join us if you can!
I’m a daughter, friend, southern belle, foodie, purple lover, bracelet wearer, golfer, world traveler, adventure seeker, abundance believer, faith walker and SMILER! I started blogging in 2007 with a blog called, Thoughts from Jasmine. It wasn’t a daily blog, weekly blog or monthly blog….it was a RANDOM blog that was simply a collection of my thoughts. Fast forward 6 years later and now we have Carpe Diem with Jasmine! It’s part Thoughts from Jasmine, a little on how we all can SEIZE THE DAY (I live my life by the mantra CARPE DIEM) plus a little GUMBO (a little of this and a little of that from my life).
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