Relationships are like Split Ends

I didn’t run out of thoughts. I took a little summer vacation, but I’m back now and I have lots of thoughts!

I just got of the phone with a friend and her situation reminded me of one my favorite JBS original quotes…”sometimes relationships are like split ends and they need to be cut” This can apply to both sexes, but I think women will really understand the point I’m trying to make.

Sometimes a woman goes to the hairdresser and is told she needs to get her split ends trimmed. For what ever reason she decides that she doesn’t want to cut her hair. Relationships are like the split ends the woman at the hairdresser doesn’t want cut. At times we end up in relationships (romantic and platonic relationships) that we know are on a slow train to NOWHERE. Instead of being proactive and ending the relationship, WE STAY. Why do we stay when we know there is no future….is it the companionship, the fun we have with the other person, sex, a fear of being alone or the status that the other person represents (I’m sure you could add a few to the list too)?

When a woman finally does cut the split ends her hair is healthier, shinier and prettier. And more importantly it grows back stronger. Similarly when we end relationships that are not nourishing to our entire being we make room for healthy, loving, positive relationships.

Do you have any split ends that need to be cut?



  • avatar Jose' Pereira says:

    Hi Jasmine,
    I really enjoy reading your thoughts. You’re such a good writer, have you ever thought about writing a book?

  • avatar Denise says:

    So, so true…thank you for reminding me of the split ends which need to be cut from my life! 😉

  • avatar ellen says:

    This is such a great analogy. It can be so difficult to let go of those long, beautiful locks. But once you do, it can make all the difference.

    None of us can truly LIVE when the past is dragging us down. Today is called “the present” for a reason. It’s a gift, and sometimes the only way to really appreciate that gift is to let go of the past.

    Memories are great, but we can’t create new ones until we begin living again.

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